The Diary of Tan Frank

Surviving

Heavens, it’s been a while since I last posted. Well, something’s got me back at it. Maybe it is the fact that I am off to a writing conference in late June of this year, and have been thinking—what good is a writer without writing, or a writing conference without pages? So here I am.

The subject is my dog Suki. I know, I know…I asked myself long and hard the same question. Do people really want to read about other people’s dogs? Okay, so perhaps it is not only about my dog. Is anything really just about one thing? Suki is at the center of the piece, probably because she is at the center of my world right now. I spend quite a few hours each day hand feeding her, my fingers covered in wet fish and soggy sweet potato, a mush that I squeeze into sausage like shapes for her. At regular intervals throughout the day and night I lift her up off the floor and carry her out into the yard so she can pee and poop. She is failing, fast too.

It wasn’t always like this. Once upon a time she was a sturdy great steed. I would balance our smaller dog on her strong back and run around the kitchen with both of them playing “Rodeo”. And then there was a time before that, when I found her and she filled a void in me so enormous that I will be forever indebted…..

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            It was a scorcher of a day when I saw it—a flash of gold on the ridge-top at Runyon Canyon. Perhaps it was the sun’s rays upon the rocky outcrop, or the drought-resistant Yarrow or Spanish Broom. 

            It had been hot the day before, and the day before that. In fact I couldn’t remember the last cool day, such was the fury of the Southern Californian summer of 2004. 

            Squinting in the desert glare and cursing my cheap plastic sunglasses, I saw it again. This time I realized it was a live creature, a coyote perhaps, although I had never seen one as yellow.

            With my hand transformed into a makeshift visor, I looked beyond the scrub oaks, and past the big Sycamore to the trail that carved around the perimeter of the park. Nothing. Gone.

            A bead of sweat formed at my temple and meandered down the course of my face. The dry air moved in great sheets around me. It was beautiful, of that there was no doubt, and as long as I could still make out the scent of orange blossom, and appreciate the rugged greys and blues of the distant San Gabriel ridges, I knew that I was still alive, or at the very least, surviving.

        Mumsy had been dead for more than three months and I wasn’t sure how to live without her. She had just seen her sixty-first birthday when she “popped her clogs.” That was her expression, so much so I thought she’d made it up, but then I googled it and realized it had a whole other existence.

            In the aftermath of her death I recalled two things:

            One: her disease—esophageal cancer sounded so clinical that the words had scared me alone.

            Two: She disclosed her illness to me on a Friday the 13th, and I wished to Christ she had chosen the day before or the day afterwards because I didn’t want to turn into one of those suspicious folks who feared arbitrary things like dates on a calendar, yet I knew in that very instant that I would.

            For nights after her death I ate anything I could find before retiring, placed a hot water bottle on my stomach, a pillow on top of the hot water bottle and wove myself up in blankets and quilts. Sometimes I hugged myself, and rubbed at my throat, fearful that I might go the same way, all my sorrows unsaid and unsayable.

            I had a girlfriend during those nights. She is the same girlfriend that I have today, only now I call her my wife, or my life partner. Her name is Nance. She moved in with me the month Mumsy passed, and although we lived in the same house, she wanted her own independence, so she took the bedroom directly beneath my own. I wondered if she heard me crying in the night, or tiptoeing over the hardwood floor above her head on my way to the bathroom cabinet to split my Valium pills into quarters so that they might last as long as my sadness.

            It seemed fitting that there should be a drought after my loss, something momentous to mark the occasion. People all around me feared wildfires. Maybe I would have worried too if the worst hadn’t already happened.

            The day I spied gold at the canyon, the hills looked scorched, the air was dry, and I could taste dust clouds. I was parched and ready for home when I saw it again, this time in my peripheral vision, yellow as the harvest moon at dusk, and yipping now too. I turned to face the thing. It was a dog, a beauty, a “Lassie Come Home” kind of a dog, shorter legs and a flatter muzzle, but the same fine nylon Barbie hair that flew all lady-like in the afternoon heat. It was Mum’s favourite breed.     

            “If I had my way, I’d get a collie,” she had said on more than one occasion.

            I held out my hand, “here girl,” I called. There was no question that a beast this pretty—not to mention flighty—had to have been a female. She glanced at me, her eyes the color of agave syrup. For a moment it seemed that she might sidle up to me, let me see if she had a collar and tag, touch that lustrous fur, scratch behind her ears. But something I was unable to detect must have scared her and she ran from me like a startled deer, her strong hind legs pulling her up the steep terrain where she vanished.

            It felt odd to be trekking after her, the heat was giddying, but more than that I knew we couldn’t take in another dog. I already had Belle, a neurotic barker, part Bedlington terrier, part poodle who had been shipped over from England the year before Mumsy died, Ripley an aged and vicious dachshund with putrid breath and arthritis, and Richie a short haired domestic tabby that was surely part feral to be able to hold his own the way he did. A fourth animal was out of the equation.

            I ducked under brittle branches, huffing and puffing. I didn’t catch sight of her again that day, but I returned after dark when it had cooled enough to breathe fully, deeply, and to walk at a steady pace. I carried a stash of organic kibble from our pantry, and an empty metal bowl that I filled from the spigot by the main gate.

            As I clambered up the hill to the last place I had spotted the yellow dog, a siren blasted from the flatlands. Coyotes howled in response to the sound and I shuddered at the thought of my dog’s vulnerability.

            My dog?

            Later that night I told my girlfriend about the yellow dog, and how pretty she was, and I felt emotion rise from my belly like a high tide.  There were tears too, which I brushed away quickly with my pajama sleeve.

            “I can help you try to catch her on my day off,” she offered. I thanked her. Neither of us mentioned what we would do after that, where we would take her, and to whom. We did agree wholeheartedly though that we couldn’t keep her.

            “Four animals would be far too much.”

            “Oh definitely.”

            Nance was a production manager by trade, and organization was her middle name. On the day of our dog catching operation, she gathered rope, bamboo fencing and walky-talkies. Upon entering the canyon, she garnered support from other dog lovers and set about arranging the fences and distributing the radios.

            “I’ll wait on this lower ridge, and we can corral her here,” she instructed.

            “And the rope?” one of the volunteers asked.

            “I’m going to try to lasso her with it,” Nance said.

            I pictured her, a modern day Will Rogers swinging the rope and catching my dog.

            The creature came down from the top of the hillside just before noon, her nose twitching and her eyes darting from me to Nance. One of the volunteers had radioed to warn us from the top of the hill, so we were ready, fences positioned, lasso in Nance’s firm grasp.

            “Here girl,” I said, and I held out a cookie, Natural Balance, fish and sweet potato.

            The beast approached me and I saw how thin she was, how burs dotted her fur like pins in a cushion, matting her long swish of a tail. She got close enough that I could see the fear in her face, the furrow in her brow, the desperate hunger in her dark eyes.

            “Grab her,” Nance said.

            “Now.”

            But it was too late. She had taken the cookie and fled. I felt her saliva on my fingers and the memory of her soft palate, the graze of teeth against my hand—gentle like a baby goat at the petting zoo.

            With the cookie dangling from her mouth, she ran past Nance, who in desperation swung the lasso around one of the animal’s legs. In the chaos of pulling at the rope and us shouting at each other, the yipping creature managed to hop out of the contraption, force a gap in the barricade and dart back up into the hills.

            I dreamed about her that night. She was a warm golden statue, yellow like the sun, bur free and dining on freeze-dried chicken treats.

            “She’s much too big to keep, even if we do catch her.” I said to Nance, upon waking.

            “And imagine how much grooming she will take.”

            “She could be sick.”

            “Or vicious.”

            “I don’t think she’s vicious,” we both agreed.

            It took three days of telephone calls and research on the Internet for me to realize there was a whole world of animal rescuers, a sub-culture of ardent vegan militants that were all on my side. Eileen was one of them. I met her in a dark and deserted back alley outside Motel 6 in Burbank, where she fed, caught, neutered and returned feral cats.

            We exchanged goods. I gave Eileen a case of Purina and she gave me a trap that she had bought at the swap meet the week before.

            “It needs oiling and fixing,” she said.

            “I know just the person.” I told her.

            Nance was a DIY enthusiast, a good one too. All the years I’d thought a husband would be handy like that, when in fact it was a wife who would eventually do me proud.

            The cage was a huge great thing and it just about fit into the Toyota station wagon I had borrowed from the co-teacher I worked with.

            The next morning I awoke early. I wanted to get a good start on the day. I packed a blanket, a flask of coffee, a bottle of water, a book, a radio, two tins of tuna and a tin opener.

            “She might just not want to get caught,” Nance said to me, between twisting wire and oiling the springs. “I’ll drop you and all that stuff off at the canyon,” she said, gesturing to my equipment, but I don’t want to spend my precious day off trying to wrangle a dog.”

            At the canyon gates we said goodbye, I unloaded the trap, and the rest of the dog catching paraphernalia.

            “It looks like you are all sorted,” Nance said

            I nodded, feeling proud. I could have survived a day in the wilderness of the Los Angeles National Forest such was my preparedness.

            Nance drove off in my co-teacher’s huge red car and I struggled to a spot inside the park where it was still cool. I made an even foundation in the dirt and placed the trap on top of it. Next I covered the entire thing with leaves for camouflage. With two tins of tuna fish plopped out onto the floor of the trap, I set the door as Nance had shown me, so that it would spring closed upon the animal’s entry.

           I had scarcely got situated on my blanket when I saw her making her way down toward me. I held my breath. She got closer, then closer still, her nose twitching like a jack rabbit at the fishy smell that emanated from the trap.

            Would she? Would she really go inside that contraption? She hesitated at the door, took one more sniff then stepped over the threshold. The door slammed closed behind her. For a while she didn’t notice that she was enclosed, or maybe she didn’t care, she gobbled the food up snorting like a warthog. But then upon finishing the last morsel she wanted out. She circled the inside of the cage and I circled the outside, both of us all at once aware of our predicament.

 

Finding Tilly

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Hearing about the demise of my Yiddisher bube was like being socked in the kishkas, you see she had been dead to me for as long as I could remember, written out of society, the best kept secret there ever was.

I was sixteen when I heard the news. These were the things that struck me: If only I had known that I had a bube who lived and breathed just twenty something miles away, I could have visited her. I was old enough to have taken the train to Banstead, to walk the two miles from the station to the mental hospital that was tucked away beyond the woods, invisible from the road.

Upon entry to the mock gothic building with its red brick turrets and barbed wire surrounds, I might have found her working in the laundry, folding sheets or starching the doctors’ coats, because that’s what the women inmates did. At one o’clock in the afternoon I could have accompanied her on the daily constitutional around the spacious grounds, held her hand and squeezed it to let her know I was there.

My bube’s name was Klothilde Raudnitz. It was a hard sounding name with too many consonants for my liking. Maybe it had been shortened to Tilly. I hoped so. Tilly sounded soft and round and altogether more modern. After my bube’s death, I thought about her a lot, and I missed her. I didn’t think it was possible to miss someone you never knew.

I wondered what we had in common, Klothilde, incarcerated for almost forty of her eighty-one years, and me. Did her hair curl like mine around her temples? Was it due to her that I had gold-green eyes? And what of my varicose vein, or my love for the written word? Might I, in my moments of melancholia have been hospitalized like her, had I been born two generations earlier?

After some research and many years of prying questions, this is what I know for sure about my bube. She hailed from Vienna, Austria, where she was born in 1901. The youngest of three children, she lost her sister in a toboggan accident when it crashed into a tree. Klothilde was riding with her and suffered a concussion. The event was said by many to account for her “strangeness” thereafter.

By the time she married my English grandfather, the only relative she had left was her beloved brother Kurt. She wanted to take him with her to London on that last boat out of war-torn Eastern Europe, but it was impossible, and he was turned back at the border. “I will find a way to bring you to us,” she promised him. And she tried. By golly she tried, all throughout the blitz, until 1945 at the end of the war when she found out her tireless campaign had been futile. Her brother, my great uncle Kurt had perished at Auschwitz.

Her decline was quick after that. She was diagnosed with non-systematized delusional insanity, certified and committed to Banstead Mental Hospital. Her three children (my father included) were told not to mention their mother. Before long her name was taboo. She was relegated to silence, as if she had never been here at all.

I know she was plump, with high cheekbones and an even smile. Uncle Henry remembered that much. He was three years old when his mother was taken away. My father must have been four. I thought about them having their mother one day and not the next, and how long it must have taken them to stop crying for her, to collude with their father, and believe that she was dead.

Bube, my bube, may never have known me, or known of me, but our lives are inextricably linked. Her suffering has informed my life’s work, the telling of stories, the championing for justice. For when everything else is said and done, stories and truth are all we have left. When my children play piano with such finesse, I think of Klothilde and her heritage, Vienna, the classical music capital of the world. She comes to mind with the turn of a Yiddisher phrase, an apple strudel, or a pot of Hungarian goulash. In those moments I think I have come to know her.

"I Have Arrived."

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"With so little greenery and so much grey, I was prone to daydreaming, to wanting for something better. It was called America." 

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The Diary of Tan Frank

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I found my diary from 1978. In it I am thirteen, and my writing is small and spidery and without punctuation.

January 1

I am babysitting tonight for one of my mum’s friends. She said she will pay me two quid. I’m going to put it in my post office account for my holiday to Majorca. I already have twenty quid saved up.

January 3

I had a row with my mum over something very minor and she hit my foot with a shoe.

January 4

I had another argument with my mum. We used to get on so well together, but now all we seem to do is have rows with each other. It was all over that bloody holiday to Majorca. I keep worrying all the time about the new things I want to get, and my mum hid my post office book, so I can’t draw any money out until nearer the time.

January 5

We have a new English teacher at our school, because the other one left to go and live in Sweden. His name is Mr. Walters, and he seems quite nice. There is just one thing I don’t like about him, and that is that he winked at me.

January 6

Today at school I had the second lesson of English with Mr. Walters. I noticed he has a habit of screwing his face up and winking one eye, so he meant nothing yesterday, it is probably just nerves.

January 7

I had French today. I think our French teacher is the most beautiful person I have ever seen. I don’t know if there is such a thing as girls having crushes on lady teachers, but I’ve certainly got something like that on her.

Unmoored

I was restless last night, as if something had come unmoored in me. Each time I closed my eyes I floated to a place that was so lonely I couldn’t sleep there, so I jolted myself to upright and propped up my pillows. The clock on Nance’s side of the bed read 3:30 A.M. too early to get up, too late to be awake. I felt her strong legs, slim against my own, and I wished that legs could twist and coil like old telephone cable, so I could intertwine us, make us one, because even though she was right there next to me, I felt untethered.

I reached for my laptop from the top of the ottoman and cracked it open. The light spilled out, and my Facebook page marked my most recent foray into cyber world. Nance pulled the edges of her sleep mask into place. She had acquired the eyewear during a recent flight on business class. It hung on our bedpost during the day, and I joked that visitors might see it as a kinky sex aid, rather than for what it really was—a means for her to cope with my nocturnal habits, and late night tap tapping on my keyboard.

Some mornings she rose when I was just done with R.E.M and settling into orthodoxy, and that’s why I never heard her. But I could see and hear her now, her small head so very still in the white beam of technology. She was an amenable soul even when I thwarted her rest. For this I felt grateful and just the slightest bit guilty.

If it was just a chat I wanted I could have called Zach. It was ten thirty in the morning U.K. time. He had recently moved in with his father for what we agreed would be a six-month stint at recovery. I missed him, especially when it was quiet and I could remember how he had been before the breakdown, how he had felt as a baby, sturdy and whole, with a keen appetite for his Farley’s rusk. I smiled at the memory of him lifting his hand into the air, grasping my fingers and guiding them to his head, and how scratching his scalp—something he loved—made me feel primal and protective like a chimp.

Underneath my smile there was a well of sadness, and a spark of fear too, a reminder of how life had been interrupted for Zach, for us all.

The guilt I felt about Nancy having to don a sleep mask was nothing compared to the reproach I felt about sending Zach away. It wasn’t just banishing him to a place the other side of the world that stung my conscience, but the fact that he and his father had been more or less estranged for a decade.

I had left the U.K. in 2002 bound for America. A single mother with Zach and his brother in tow, I envisaged a better life and hadn’t calculated the toll of immigration, of borders and separation, not until the psychiatrists did. They sat tall at their desks in their ergometric chairs and scrawled on their lined pads, trying to make sense of Zach’s condition. 

I felt responsible. I was responsible.

It hadn’t been that long ago that mothers, such as myself were labeled as schizophrenogenic, clinically defined as dominant, overprotective but basically rejecting. I liked this notion. I wanted my son’s psychosis to be down to me. If it was something I had done or said to cause his brain to short-circuit, to be flooded with dopamine, to lose cognitive function and short-term memory, then surely a change on my part should suffice to bring about a cure, should it not?

“Zach being with his father might be a good thing,” I told the neighbors. “Maybe they will bond and it will help him psychologically.” It sounded Neo-Freudian, especially to my feminist ears, but I was running out of things to say that wouldn’t stigmatize us further. Lacking rationale was just one more lack in a list of many, lack of funds, lack of health insurance, and lack of sleep.

Nance shifted and threw back the quilt. It was hot and dry and the Santa Ana’s snaked around the house and through the palms before prying a window loose above my head. I opened a couple of redundant emails, threw them into the trash, and heard the electronic crunch that accompanied the operation. It struck me how easy it was to get rid of things, to throw them away, leaving no trace, as if they’d never existed in the first place.

I clicked the laptop shut, returned it to the ottoman and turned out the light. I inched closer to Nance, slung my arm over her waist and placed my foot beneath her own. Our legs might not be able to weave together like I wished, but her instep was warm and yielding, and familiar.

                   

MUMSY

The following piece came about as a result of an exercise designed by my creative writing professor at U.C.R. It is what she calls power writing. It was modeled on the principles of mindful-meditation and I think I understand why.

I was a bit skeptical before I tried it. But after just one focused and applied practice, I became a convert. My prompt was, “my mother is a woman who looks like.…who sounds like….who smells like….who tastes like….who feels like.” I set the alarm on my phone, giving myself ten minutes as instructed.

The idea is not to use punctuation. Commas and full stops do exactly what they are intended to do, stop us in our stride, make our brain think we have to start again, and come up with a new or different thought. By just writing we can tune in and go deep and get to a place of vulnerability that makes good prose.

I turned off my editing brain, the one that is obsessed with the minutiae of structure and cutting and pasting, and this is what I got…..

(Note: This version has punctuation marks to aid readability.)

My mother was a woman who looked like a man, a manly man at that. Her hair was short and black, she shaved it with clippers that she had bought from the jumble sale to trim the dog, cropping her head all over without using the safety guard. Afterwards there were bald spots, places where her scalp showed through, blue-white and wrinkled.

She was large, a good thirteen and a half stone, mostly bosoms and stomach and spindly legs, like Big Bird on Sesame Street. She had eyes as black as cobalt, shiny and polished as if ready to be set in jewelry. Her nose was long with a bump on the bridge, a Jewish nose. We measured our noses once with a ruler because Mum was insistent that mine was longer. She was wrong.

Mum had square feet with short toes like paddles, good for swimming. She wore Doctor Scholl sandals with leather uppers, and soles of hard heavy wood. She threw them at us when she was about to get her period. My brother and I learned how to duck really well.

Mum never wore make up or perfume or pearls or pretty dresses. Once a child asked if she was a woman or a man, and she lifted her top to reveal her pendulous breasts and said, “what do you think? What are these?”

I was ashamed of Mum for a long time. Her underarms were pungent, and her nicotine stained fingers reeked of Player’s Number Ten cigarettes. I pretended to detest, yet secretly craved the familiarity of those odors, smoky and musky and deep, just like her voice.

Mum was a woman who sounded like a foghorn. She bellowed when she was angry, and her chest vibrated from the depth of the tone.

She tasted like chlorine after swimming on Sunday afternoons, bleached all over, every square inch of her. “Suck and smell,” she said, pointing to her forearm, and I did, and then we laughed.

Sometimes she whiffed of the chips she fried, all salt and vinegary. Other times when we had been to the off-license, she was sweet from Fry’s Turkish Delight. She never smelled of face cream or lipstick or cologne.

After her bath she filled the room with an aroma of Head and Shoulders anti-dandruff shampoo, and Wrights Coal Tar soap, medicated and herbal and clean. The scent was strong, like her.

Mum was a woman who felt soft, her heaving bosom, a built-in portable pillow, the most comfortable one in the house. Her stomach a great mound of flesh often gurgled like the River Ching, and it was hard and firm, as if everything she ate had turned to stone.

It was that stomach that killed her in the end, bloated and cancerous, it took her out of the game.